What if we already had a perfect and functional map of gender in our language?  No new words.

What if, when coupled with a few principles, that map can genuinely transform your understanding of your relationships, as well as your own behaviour? 

What might the implications be for those suffering and struggling in confusion?

For those who have wondered ‘why am I like this’ or ‘how did that amazing relationship go wrong?’

And what if, when those principles are understood, the entire so-called ‘gender spectrum’ and modern relationship complexities is explicable and comprehensible?

What might that mean for human relations, those seeking to attract a partner, or those struggling with identity?

As a species, we have developed a great sensitivity and awareness in the last generation or two. With them, an ever increasing expectation and demand from others, but not enough of the needed maturity, dexterity, compassion and insight that is needed to go with such awareness. 

The situation has left human relations in tatters, with younger and older generations alike struggling to find ways to meaningfully connect and to have deeply intimate relations. Further, the lack of a coherent and mutually verifiable understanding of gender and relating prevents a forward movement that ‘works for everyone.’

The objective here is happy humans of all persuasions, with an insight into their own drives and desires and behaviours which may be a mystery to them now, with a shared language so everyone knows what we are referring to.

Having worked in this way over 20 years with people of all persuasions, I am confident that his new understanding of gender is capable of delivering that for those who apply it. and, while it is firmly rooted in the Toltec understanding of gender, the form I offer it to you in is one which fits the expression and language of ‘now.’

It is a genuine and full new paradigm to approaching gender and human relations, so prepare for the fact that this content will not be ‘2 line paragraphs’ engineered for short attention spans and SEO.

It is intended to help change your life forever through a meaningful and progressive ‘map of gender’ that will give you incredible insight into past relations and current behaviour (yours and others), as well as arming you with an entirely new way to approach processing what is happening in ALL your relationships, and, in fact, in every single communicative interaction you have.

As per the homepage ‘optical illusions,’ I have to take time to ‘point out enough features’ of the ‘other image’ of gender and relating for you to assemble it. One hopes one can accept the price of attention, and a small investment of time, for such a potential outcome.

This genuinely new paradigm has a two-prong approach to gender and relational dynamics.  Both are utterly simple, but because humans are complex…it can get complex.

One could call the more mental one a masculine approach to gender, as it primarily works through the mind and its linear structures, but relies on feeling to navigate. 

One could call the other a  feminine approach to gender, as it primarily moved through the body and feeling and the non-linear, but relies on mind to navigate. 

Age is no barrier - the learning is exponential the older one is because the more experiences you have had in different relationships (even friendships and business relations), the more you will experience a cascade of insights as the naturalness of the models plugs seamlessly into your past experiences as well as present.

Start with either, but you will need both for ‘the whole picture,’